We had a huge emotional fall out with our son last night as a result of a couple plays in his baseball game. He’s a very emotional child as it is but when things are starting to turn bad they can spiral so quickly. As a father, it’s my job to try and pick up the pieces and try and encourage him to get him back on his feet. Easier said than done most of the time.
Adversity tends to shed light on true character. I was reading this morning in my Charles Spurgeon devotional Matthew 26:56, “Then all the disciples deserted Him and fled.” As Jesus is being arrested His disciples ran away after some said they would fight to the end. They left Him on His own out of fear for their own lives.
As a father, husband, shepherd of the family, leader of the household, it would be so easy to check out and move on and distance myself from the responsibilities of the role and life God has called me too. In fact, I can identify with those dads that do. I’m not condoning that behavior at all, just saying I can see where the weight of a father’s and husband’s responsibilities outweigh the perseverance of the man. I believe its forgotten that God never promises to not give you too much to handle. I think He allows too much adversity in our lives to draw us nearer to Him and continue to help us understand our dependance on Him. Yes, I wish at times God would allow a break in thise time when I want the break, but it’s not my will but Thy will.
Paul prayed for his thorn to be removed, yet God reminded him that His grace was sufficient. God sent an angel to strengthen Jesus when He most needed it. God kept David safe in the wilderness while he was running from Saul. I think Jesus knew the things the disciples would face, and I think that’s why He told them to pray, so they wouldn’t fall into temptation.
The world so much wants to pull us husbands and fathers into temptation and away from leading our families when things get tough. Even when they aren’t tough many temptations are there. I believe its what Satan wants, take down the head of the family and the family will fall along with it. I also have a daughter. I read a book a few years ago and it wrote about how as dads we model for our daughters the kind of husband our daughters will marry. I’ve not done any scientific research on this but if I reflect on the women I have known and look at their relationships with men, whether just friends or boyfriends/husbands, it gives us a peak in to the relationships with their father. If they had a good relationship with their father then they will make good choices in their relationships with men and vice versa. There are exceptions, but I believe this is generally true.
A lot of times I pray what Solomon asked of God, ” So give your servant an understanding heart to judge Your people to discern between good and evil. For who is able to judge this great people of Yours?” In his humility, Solomon knew and was aware of the task at hand in leading Israel after his father David passed away. He knew he needed help, so he asked for it.
As husbands and fathers, we can’t lead and shepherd our families, the family God has given us, on our own. We need and understanding or hearing heart. One that is in tune with God. We also need to be strengthened, we need God’s strength. If God sent an angel to strengthen His son in His darkest hour, would he not do that for us?
Husbands and fathers, “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”