I’ve been thinking a bit lately about being a father and husband and what in God’s eyes what it really means and looks like. It’s not the first time but with some recent events and some reminders I’ve been looking at it again.
I think there is a big issue, and some may say, a growing epidemic in our country with fathers and husbands not truly leading and loving their families as they should. There is such an emphasis and great pressure from society and our culture for the dad and husband to be successful in the work place, which is not always a bad thing, but there also needs to be an emphasis for us as men to be successful in the home. Paul tells us that as husbands we should follow the model of Jesus and love our wives as He loved the church. Jesus sacrificed His place in heaven to come and give us the opportunity to have fellowship with God directly, because He loves us that much. He anguished and sweat drops of blood in carrying out His mission, yet in His time of need God sent angels to strengthen Him.
In some ways I think Satan has some fathers and husbands right where he wants them. We hear in the news and I would venture to guess in our communities, of the scandals of men being caught up in sex trafficking and prostitution, married men, men who you would think have everything they could want and need. It’s not hard to look and see where depression and suicide impact the men if our country and of the world. But the pressures of being the head of the household and being a godly husband and father are there and are very real today. The adulterous influences are everywhere around us TV shows sporting events magazines, you name it, its difficult to avoid.
I truly believe that the closer we walk with God, the more Satan turns the screws on us and the more distractions and pressure he throws our way.
In our society and culture today, unfortunately its unmanly for a man to ask for help or be part of a men’s support group. I’ve had a small group of men around me for the last few years, a group of awesome godly men that I know I can call on anytime and ask for prayers and encouragement, and I do the same for them anytime. I started this group because I knew that I would have trials and would need encouragement and for other men to speak God’s Truth into my life. There’s nothing unmanly about recognizing your own weaknesses.
Do I have being a godly husband and father down, absolutely not. Yes I do things to make wife upset and my kids cry. I went through a period in my life that I was not a good husband and father. But after some time I knew I was messing up and dug into God’s Word to see what He wanted and expected of me. I am still very much a work in progress. Our actions or even inactions as husbands and fathers influence and can impact those in our family, sometimes for long periods or even a lifetime.
I also truly believe that if men would grab a hold of their responsibilities as husbands and fathers like they pursued their careers most of of our societal issues would go away. Fortunately we don’t have to be strong enough, we have a God that strengthens us and hears our cries for help. The below devotional is one I get and this one tells about investing in our kids.
I believe we invest in things that are important to us things that are a priority in our life. Some day we will retire from our jobs and professions but we never really retire from being a husband and father.
I like what David told Solomon
“I am about to go the way of all the earth,” he said. “So be strong, act like a man, and observe what the Lord your God requires: Walk in obedience to him, and keep his decrees and commands, his laws and regulations, as written in the Law of Moses. Do this so that you may prosper in all you do and wherever you go
1 Kings 2:2-3 NIV
We need to act like godly men and walk in obedience to Him. Like Solomon, we need to ask for a hearing heart in order to lead our families.
Being a godly husband and father is definitely not an easy thing to do. Jesus was ridiculed and spat on for loving us, but He completed His mission.
Go home and live your wife and kids today, be the husband and father God has called you to be. Wives and kids are truly gifts from God.